Last year I was introduced to the works of Dorothy Rowe, the Australian Psychologist and writer who has written widely including on human relationships. The first book I read was “Friends and Enemies” a great book which explains why we all need good relationships with people who we love and who love us as well as bad relationships with people we imagine hate us.
It was in this book that I first discovered the term Introvert and Extrovert and I knew instinctively that I was an Introvert – “the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one’s own mental life” as opposed to an Extrovert “the act, state, or habit of being predominantly concerned with and obtaining gratification from what is outside the self”.
In a recent Guardian there was a great article which relates this so much better than I can and explains so much of why the things that irritate me, irritate me! I hate open plan offices, brain storming sessions, team building, team bonding, group presentations which achieve nothing and my pet hate, organised team outings – now at least I understand that I’m just not weird I simply work with a bunch of extroverts.
I would also recommend the original article referenced Caring for your Introvert which makes a great deal of sense. So, which one are you?